Yesterday I met a mom at the park who told me in confidence that she had, “gained 60 pounds in pregnancy.” She was horrified at the number and explained that she learned to hate her doctors visits during this time--a time when she could have been celebrating the growth of a health baby.
Weight gain during pregnancy is a difficult topic to broach, especially in our fat-phobic society. How dare a woman gain more than the recommended 25-35 pounds while growing a baby! As you know, all women are the same and a 10 pound weight range is totally appropriate. But I digress (read more here). This mother’s story reminded me of my own pregnancy weight gain. I remember at one point having the incredible realization that I am not in control of my weight. Almost every week during pregnancy I would gain weight. No matter what I did. I didn’t try to gain weight. I just ate when I was hungry and stopped when I was full like I normally do. But instead of staying the same size like I normally do, I gained weight. Lots of weight. Right about now you are thinking, “Of course you did! You were growing a baby!” But the point is I didn’t use my willpower or some other method of gaining weight, my hormones took care of everything. They loaded on the pounds, made my hunger slightly more intense, made my boobs fuller, my veins bigger, my hips wider. Its not like I said, “yup, today is the day I should gain 3 pounds.” It was beautiful!
The same is true for every other moment of our lives. WE HAVE NO CONTROL OF OUR WEIGHT LOSS OR GAIN! Sure you can eat less and exercise more, but if you drop to a weight that your body doesn’t like, your hormones will kick in and do everything possible to make you gain back the weight you lost. You will burn less energy, you may become obsessed with food, you may feeling hungry all the time, and you will hang on to every pound like you have none to lose. You may think you are in control and that you can just change your eating and exercise sprinkle in a little willpower and BAM! New body. But the simple fact is: you are not in control. Sucks right? Well- you can see it that way. Or you can see it as freeing. If you can’t control it, why try? Just tune in to your body cues, eat in a balanced way and your body will let you know. Stop trying to fight it! You really have no control anyway. What do you think?